If you want to live a happy life, the one and the only way is to stop proving others and start living for yourself.
It is very bitter to accept, but the truth is, most of your life you are living for the banks and for the corporates but not for yourself and for your family.
To start living for yourself, you need to understand the basic difference between these two terms “NEED” and “WANT”. Well, sometimes differentiating between “NEED” and “WANT” is quite subjective.
Things that are required to survive and to meet the basic requirements come under the “NEED” category. Whereas those which we think can bring more happiness, joy, pleasure and status will come under the “WANT” category.
To put some examples
- You need a car to travel, but you want a BMW
- You need a smart phone to communicate and access information very easily, but you want an I phone
- You need comfortable clothes to wear, but you want to wear only branded clothes
- You need to send your kid to a good school, but you want to send him to the best school in the town
- The simple formula to lead a happy life is to have fewer items in your “WANT” list
- The less you have in your want list, the less money you need to make
- The less money you need to make, the less time you need to work
- The less time you need to work, the more time you will have to live for yourself and for your family
This world has become so materialistic, forcing you to follow the herd. Media is bombarding with so many things which really are not required in your life. Still, they are successful in creating a false impression in each and every one among us. Being detached from such a materialistic world has become almost impossible and most of us are falling into that trap. I always think that addiction to over-consumption and materialism is the most common disease that is affecting the financial health of most of the family living in this modern world. The whole aim of all the corporate advertisements is to create a ” I WANT THAT” feel in your mind. Corporates are successful in creating that false impression that owning their products or services makes your life happy and comfortable. But the truth is really something else.
I still remember the day I bought my first mobile phone and how much happy I was at that time. But, that happiness didn’t last too long. A few years ago, I realized that owning a Blackberry is a status symbol, as most of corporate and business people used to carry that phone. The day I bought my Blackberry, I too felt like one among them. Then again, after a few weeks, my Blackberry failed to continuously deliver happiness in my life, as it slowly became one of all other materialistic possessions I had at that time.
Slowly, even though a bit late, I realized that all these materialistic possessions I had will never ever bring happiness into my life. In fact, they are gonna make my life miserable.
You need to understand that to buy things that are in your “WANT” list, you are not only just paying the money that it costs. You are also paying the time you have taken out of your life to earn that money. You are buying something by giving away the limited time you have in your life, that too for a product which is really not required and will never last forever.
So next time when you plan to buy something, just wait, think about it and make sure whether you really “NEED” it or “WANT” it. Please stop paying the limited time you have in your life to these corporates and banks.